--ACHIEVEMENT 7: 3 Keys to Accomplishing (2)

--ACHIEVEMENT 7: 3 Keys to Accomplishing (2)

Date: 1/7/2006

 

 This article is not finished yet! In fact,  I just started writing it....

Plan    How to reach that goal. Trying to accomplish without a plan is like knowing what Joe looks like but not knowing how to get to the city he is in.  You will wind up driving everywhere and never find him.  There are some excellent decision making techniques that can help a person decide on the best plan.

In the Posers model

E stands for Evidence.   It is important to have a way of knowing that you are--or are not-- achieving your goal.  Using the the goal we mentioned of "making friends" .  What will be happening in his life to let him know that he is achieving his goal?  Examples could include people coming over to him to "shmooze" ,  smiling at him and greeting him,  including him in their activities.  

Effort    Not putting in the needed effort is like knowing what Joe looks like, knowing exactly how to get there, but never finding him because you are not willing to get in the car and drive there. Or, you lose interest in the middle of the trip and turn back.   Or, you give up when the going gets rough.

In my counseling experience, putting in the effort to  follow  through on the plan is the greatest challenge for most people.  Sometimes a person has to learn how to motivate himself when the going gets rough.   If a person is not achieving his goal, we figure out what, exactly, is the obstacle that is blocking him.  And,  then,  how to overcome it. 

Motivation:  Ask:  "Why do you want it?" "How will this goal impact your life in the future." When the person has the answers to these questions it can help motivate him.