What to Talk About on Your First Date...

What to Talk About on Your First Date...

Date: 3/30/2024

1) Rest up before the date!  Be awake!

During the date,   stay relaxed and focused!  

 
Opening sentence:  "Hi I'm _______.  Nice to meet you.  I thought that I would start the conversation by telling a little about myself." 
[NOTE-- It is worthwhile saying this sentence a few times to yourself before you meet. ]
 
During the first date you want to talk about general topics.  The purpose is to see if you connect with each other. 
(In future dates you can start to  speak about more personal topics). 
 
2) Topics for opening the conversation: 
--Where I work.   My neighborhood. My hobbies and other things I am doing
 
There should be a flow --back and forth between you and her-- in the conversation.  
 
If the flow starts to slow down you can ask her
"So,  tell me a little about yourself"  (pick one of the following topics)
-- Where she is  working  or studying.  Her  neighborhood  , her  hobbies and other things she is  doing. 
 
3) More topics: 
(introduce these topics with "Let me tell you a little about___")
--My family --where they are from,  what they are doing, , where I went to school, where I grew up,  and interesting experience that happened to you recently
 
If the flow starts to slow down you can say)
"So tell me a little about ___"
--Her  family --where they are from,  what they are doing, , where she went to school, where she grew up,  
 
You can talk about your feelings about these topics.  
You can ask her questions about her feelings such as “Did you like that?”, “What do you like or dislike about it?”, “How do you feel about that?”, and “What makes you feel that way?” .   
This will help keep the conversation going and help you understand who she is. 
 
You may also want to say a short  vort on the פרשה if there is a lull in the conversation.  
"I saw something interesting in the Parsha...."
 
4) Closing the conversation and the date: 
(if you think you want to see her again)
"I had a very nice time and I will be in touch with the Shadchan. 
 
(If you do not want to see her again)
"It was nice meeting you.  I will be in touch with the Shadchan.